Brownsville, Family & Friends, Mental Health Tip

Mental Health Tip: Talk to Your Dad

So I’m super blessed to have both my mom & dad in my life.  But I have to admit prior to moving back to NYC I hardly ever spoke to my dad.  I spend way more time with him now than I ever did when I was growing up.  I didn’t believe I would ever really have a good relationship with my dad but I was wrong (thank goodness).

Now it’s not so much the conversations I have with my dad as his sayings.  I know he’s in a good mood when he says, “Whatsdoing?”  I had never heard this saying before and other than the outrageous grammar error I thought it was just something he made up.  Then I met a woman around my dad’s age and she asked me the same thing.  Clearly it’s a generational thing.  It makes me think of how the young men in the neighborhood call my dad “Old Skool”.

In my time with my dad I’ve learned that he’s come quite far for a man who’s stayed in the same neighborhood for over 50 years.  In my time in NYC he’s provided me a safe haven batting away all my concerns with a single phrase – “I gotcha.”

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Friendship

When I was sick I thought I’d lost all of my friends.  I thought the people who used to know me would never want to speak to me or have anything to do with me ever again.

Now that I’ve been in NYC and reconnected with so many friends from my past I know that I was completely wrong.  I’ve begun to realize that many of the negative thoughts I have are typically wrong.  It’s not that everyone loves me or thinks that I’m great because I know that that is not true.  But the truth to me now is that not everyone has written me off.

I don’t think I really knew what friendship was when I was younger.  I thought I had to work really hard and give people presents but the presence of a true friend is the gift.