One of my biggest lessons from business school is that you don’t have to be the best at anything. You just have to be better than the worst people in the class. So how well you do in the class depends on how smart the class is. I realize over and over again that it is often the same in life.
A little bit more intelligence than average; A little bit more money than average; A little bit more talent than average; It can take you a lot further than you’ve ever imagined.
For most of my life I knew exactly what I wanted but I still had no idea what I wanted. What I mean is that I didn’t know anything about what I wanted except that I wanted it. The things I wanted seemed nice from the outside but I didn’t have any friends who had the life I wanted and the people who I thought had the life I wanted didn’t seem to want to take any time to share anything about their lives with me.
It occurred to me recently that I have many of the things I’ve always wanted and instead of feeling like I should be happy I actually feel happy. I’ve spent my entire life trying to accomplish many things I have accomplished and I give myself permission to relax and be happy. This truth came over me very slowly and overtook me completely.
Now I ask myself is it still settling if you’re happy where you wound up?
I don’t think so.
I know for a fact now that no one believes you can do anything until it’s done. Sure there are people who support you all along the way giving you guidance and words of encouragement but no one believes anything until it actually happens. And then they can’t believe you actually did it once it’s done.
Sometimes the person with the least amount of faith in you is YOU.
Try to impress yourself. It’s harder than you think.
I was so focused on getting through my first 66 days I never stopped to think of the 67th day. It just hit me this month that I put myself on a different path for the rest of my life whether I like it or not. And now that the habit is built I have to adjust to the fact that this is now my life. It’s like discovering a different part of myself. Things I used to believe are no longer true. For instance I used to justify eating poorly because I only have one life to live and I should be able to eat whatever I want no matter what.
So here I am in Month 4 – The habit is now my life and each day is NEW.
When I used to eat McDonald’s every week I could never stomach any of this. It just tasted awful to me. Now it tastes so good I eat the whole thing!
When I took a day job someone told me not to forget what it is I really want to do.
I often think back to when she said it to me especially since I’m quite comfortable in my new position and I could walk away from the writing and just let my life play out the way most other people’s lives play out.
I used to write because I felt like I had to. It’s just apart of who I am.
I had no idea the real joy in writing is doing it because I want to.
Whenever someone tells me I’m not supposed to eat something I tell them I’m not dieting. I’m making a lifestyle change. And for me that does not mean I have stopped eating everything I like to eat because honestly I’m not capable of doing that.
I have to be honest about what my lifestyle change really means for me –
-not buying soda or sugary drinks by the caseload
-not eating burgers and fries more than 3x a week
-not eating an entire box of donut holes
-not eating at least 2 candy bars at a time
-not eating family size bags of chips
You get the picture – I am overweight for a reason and I needed to come to terms with that – 3 months – 20lbs lost = lifestyle change. I’ve never found a diet that actually works. This is the only way I know how to get the weight off.