I remember in 3rd grade we had an assignment where we were supposed to grow roots from a bean surrounded by cotton. We watered the cotton and that was supposed to make the bean’s roots grow.
Everyone’s beans grew roots except mine and my teacher blamed me and said I did not have a green thumb. I never tried to grow anything again and never bought any plants for my apartments. I assumed he must have been right. He blamed me and I internalized the blame.
Now I realize this has happened to me time and time again. People blame me for something and I assume they must be right and take the blame. And then I began to wonder what if I weren’t to blame. Who’s fault would it be then?